Marriage & Relationship Coach

Angry Spouse? Stop Walking on Eggshells and Save Your Marriage

Are you being careful not to upset your angry spouse? Like giving in to a bully, that will only encourage your spouse to use anger to control and manipulate you Many people take the approach of trying to anticipate what will make their spouses angry and try to prevent that.  This walking on eggshells approach is never completely successful.  Being careful as a...

When Your Wife Wants to Separate

Your marriage is not over when your wife wants to separate.  Handled correctly, this can be a good opportunity for your marriage to become better than ever. If you are like most of the men I work with and your wife wants to separate, that came as a complete surprise to you.  Even if your relationship has been poor for years, you thought that she would never...

Separation Boundaries to Promote Reconciliation

Are you using good separation boundaries to prevent your spouse from having his (or her) cake and eating it, too? Many people do reconcile after separation.  Many people do not.  What makes the difference between these two groups?  In my experience, the single most important factor is the behavior of the partner who wants to save the relationship. Two...

My Boyfriend Left Me Again

Here is an actual response that I sent to a needy young woman asking for my advice after her boyfriend left her for the second time Dear Miss Needy, It sounds like you have had a roller coaster ride of a relationship.  You did very well not to get desperate when your boyfriend left before, but you didn’t make the changes that were necessary to prevent a...

Making Your Relationship a Priority

Failing to make your relationship a priority will ultimately result in your spouse no longer making your relationship a priority. Whatever you prioritize in life, you can keep.  Are your priorities making your link to your spouse stronger or weaker?  What change do you need to make in your priorities to keep your relationship strong? The priorities that seem to...

Loving a Narcissistic Sociopath

Is your partner charming, deceptive, and manipulative? You may have fallen into the trap of a narcissistic sociopath. Is there a way to make it work? Have you fallen in love with a charming person who you have caught cheating on you multiple times with multiple people, but with very good excuses for doing so?  Or, who you have found to cheat others financially...

12 Ways Neediness is Hurting Your Relationship

How many of these needy characteristics can you find in yourself? Just as high blood pressure is the silent killer of people’s health, needy characteristics are the silent killer of people’s relationships.  And, just like high blood pressure, it can be reduced, and in many cases eliminated, so that you can go on to have a loving, satisfying,...

Get More Love from Your Spouse

Get more love by loving first Every second of every day, there is some relationship being damaged or lost because of neediness.  For every spouse I help to get more love, there is some aspect of overcoming neediness.  Working to eliminate this neediness can significantly boost the amount of love you receive from your spouse.  In many cases, it can prevent...

End Neediness and Save Your Relationship

Are you feeling stuck in your relationship because your partner is not making the changes you need to feel loved?  End neediness to be more effective in getting the love you want from your partner. A needy person is someone who does not have good skills for choosing partners, resolving conflict, keeping attraction, and using good boundaries.  Instead, needy...

Marriage Improvement: 10 Expert Ideas

Marriage improvement works best with these everyday actions. Waiting, hoping, wishing–these are the methods that most people use to have a better relationship.  They don’t work, because what is required is action.  The happiness of your marriage is not in the hands of your spouse.  Marriage improvement is in your hands.  Here are 10 things you can...