Clinical Psychologist, Marriage and Relationship Coach

Come, learn how to re-attract and reconnect with your spouse

Jack and Toshie Ito
Dr. Jack Ito and Toshie Ito

I’ve been coaching and counseling since 1994. During this time, I’ve had the opportunity to help many men and women who have had relationship challenges, similar to yours, develop solutions to help them reconnect and rebuild.

Most people want to get help with problems they can’t fix by themselves. The alternative is let the relationship gradually come to an end. There are a variety of resources you can use to improve your relationship. You can use the internet and read books when your problems are only mild. As your problems become more serious, you can get marriage counseling or coaching. That’s where I come in. As you can see from this website, I have particular expertise in two key areas: 1) restoring love in strained relationships; and 2) helping people to be both secure and loving when their behaviors are putting their relationship at risk.

There are a few differences between my marriage and relationship coaching and others.

First, I bring myself and my 45+ years as a Christian, my training as a clinical psychologist, my training as a seminary graduate, and my professional training as a coach. Most coaches do not even have ONE of these.

Secondly, I bring straight talk, direction, and instruction in connection, attraction, boundaries, and restoration of love. There is no counseling in my coaching. You need to learn what to do now, not talk about it for a few months.

Restoring badly damaged relationships is my specialty.

  • I don’t “check for compatibility,” We create compatibility.
  • I don’t advocate “giving space.” A spouse who wants to end your relationship is not going to miss you.
  • I don’t tell people they need to submit to a spouse who is not submitted to God.
  • I don’t teach deceptive tricks and manipulation. These break trust and damage relationships more.
  • Instead, I help my clients to build love and connection through the use of sincere and honest relationship skills. I empower people to connect, attract, and repair their relationship.

Someone once said it’s not what someone does to you that determines who you are, but how you respond to what they do. If what your spouse is doing is hurting you, the answer to that is not ending your marriage. It’s learning how to love your spouse even in this situation, while using good boundaries to prevent becoming a victim.

So, what kind of help do you need? And, when do you intend to get it? The answers to those questions will make more difference than anything else you do for the rest of your relationship.

Find answers to frequently asked questions here.


Jack Ito PhD,

Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Marriage and Relationship Coach