Category: Loving Addicted Spouses

Alcoholic Spouse? Avoid These Relationship Mistakes

November 19, 2012

If you have an alcoholic spouse, you may be making one of these four mistakes. Changing even that one thing can give your relationship a...

How to Live with an Addicted Spouse: Questions & Answers

August 14, 2012

Setting boundaries with an alcoholic or addicted spouse can be confusing. Setting them correctly will help you to live with and help your addicted spouse....

Loving and Helping an Addicted Spouse

August 11, 2012

If your spouse is addicted to drugs or alcohol, you will need to deal with that before your relationship can improve. Trying to build a...

A Radical Approach to Relationships!

★★★★★

“Until I read Jack's work and used his coaching, I had no idea how disconnecting it is to argue with your spouse. I was also practicing "Needy" behaviors as outlined in his book, "Overcome Neediness and Get the Love You Want." His techniques for connecting through agreement and overcoming neediness were different than any other coaching or relationship self-help books I have seen anywhere! Even though it is likely too late to save my marriage (my husband is having an affair with a girl 30 years his junior), I feel this information and coaching will be invaluable for my future relationships - not just with my spouse, but everyone in my life. I am also learning how to have firm and loving boundaries. My only problem with Coach Jack is that I wish I had found him sooner! Then perhaps our marriage could have been saved. - Gratefully, Maureen”

- Maureen

Empowering during a trial separation

★★★★★

“My wife and I had been separated for a month when I engaged Coach Jack. The separation was initiated by my wife and it came as a complete shock to me. I sought answers for how to explain what happened. There are plenty of fantastic books on marriage out there. Though all they did was reinforce what I should have been doing all along to prevent landing into the situation I am in. There are a few books on separation though they didn't quite resonate with my situation. These books often put a primary focus on applying love and biblical principles, which could work if your spouse is receptive to that treatment/guilt. When you are the left-behind spouse, this approach can lead to a lot of rejection. The use of "love" is often too late for a spouse who now sees you as desperate and wants space from you. Coach Jack was able to give me practical steps to gradually emotionally reconnect with my wife and to immediately stop damaging behaviors that push her away or lead to more rejection. He taught me a different style of communication (that you can read about in his book "Connecting Through 'Yes!'") which has been very helpful in the re-connection process. I have definitely noticed improvement in how my wife and I communicate after just one month. Coach Jack really cuts to the chase and you need to be ready to accept some hard truths about your situation. He doesn't promise a quick fix. He was clear that the process can take months with many pitfalls along the way. I highly recommend using Coach Jack's services. If you're still undecided, thoroughly read through the articles in his archive. If you find that resonates with your situation then you should really consider using him.”

- Rob in Texax

He did it again!

★★★★★

“Over a year ago coach jack helped save my marriage and more recently, his coaching did it again! His online resources are amazing but his book “Connecting through Yes” is a MUST as well as coaching sessions when you need help. Don’t make the mistake I made by falling into old repetitive relationship-DAMAGING behaviors ! Remember what he has taught you and stay with it!”

- Anthony

Crucial perspective

★★★★★

“Coach Ito was to the point and clear. There was no sugar- coating of the advice. You must be willing to hear his analysis of what you are doing right and what you are doing wrong and be open to modifying your own behavior in order to reach your goals in a relationship. You can either take the advice or reject it but either way, hearing it will benefit you. His insights are the result of his experience and his training, so he speaks to real life human behavior patterns not fairytales. As such, his comments resonate and break through preconceived notions allowing real action to be taken. The book he wrote Connecting Through Yes was the single most impactful piece of material I have encountered pertaining to relationships. It, along with his specific coaching sessions, were instrumental in giving me power over my own life.”

- Allyson

Supportive and effective

★★★★★

“Coach Jack's primary focus is helping you get what you want in very clear and direct ways. He is very quick to analyze situations and provide valuable insight and clear action plans that are incredibly effective. He gives his advice in a way that is easy to understand and follow!”

- Andrea

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