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How and when to confront your spouse’s affair is part of the solution. The other is knowing how to rebuild following the confrontation. Robin had been feeling for a long time like she was unimportant to her husband. He didn’t seem to be interested in talking with her anymore. He would if he needed to,…
It’s easy to be confused with all the advice on dealing with a spouse’s affair. Here are some principles to help you cut through the false information. Today, I will address the following questions:
Do you know the difference between a sexual affair and an emotional affair? Is one more ok than the other? Can someone have a “mental affair,” even if he or she isn’t seeing anyone? Have you ever had a feeling your partner was cheating on you? You may have seen or heard something that made you suspect…
Neediness in marriage contributes to MOST of men’s affairs. The things you are doing to help may actually be pushing him away. Neediness is damaging to relationships at all stages and is a major contributor to failed relationships, whether married or not. A little work on your part can make a BIG difference for the…
Although it may seem fair to you if you date others, this behavior can only hurt your chances of permanently reconciling. Dating others while wanting your spouse to end an affair will also quickly turn you into a hypocrite. Dating others while being married is cheating. You are still married, even while separated. You have…
Balance good boundaries and loving communication to end your spouse’s affair and be close again You can build your relationship, even while your spouse is having an affair. But, you will need to use good boundaries. Otherwise, your spouse will enjoy you and the affair partner. The more damaged your marriage has become, the more…
If you take your cheating husband or wife back too soon, that is needy and encourages continued affairs. So, when should you take your cheating spouse back? Many people, in their desire to reconcile, will take a cheating spouse back too quickly. The problem with this is that their spouses are still overcoming their attraction…
You will have to confront your cheating spouse with your knowledge of his or her affair if you hope to save your relationship. But, what is the best way to do that? Before confronting your cheating spouse, you need to: 1) know what you want to achieve, 2) anticipate different responses you may get, and…
Is your spouse infatuated with someone other than you? How long does limerence last? Your spouse’s limerence doesn’t need to be a barrier to your building your relationship. Can you compete with your spouse’s limerence (infatuation) for someone else? Yes, you can. But you can’t do that by putting down the object of his or…
How long affairs last depends on several factors. Some of these are under your control. Learn how to do what you can to shorten your spouse’s affair. For more than two decades, I have been helping people to end their spouse’s affairs and to rebuild their relationships. What is important to realize is that there…