Marriage & Relationship Coach

Take a Cheating Spouse Back: 3 Conditions

Take a cheating spouse back only after you rebuild your relationship Many people, in their desire to reconcile, will take a cheating spouse back too quickly.  The problem with this is that their spouses are still overcoming their attraction to someone else and are not fully committed to reconciling.  After returning home, they have only a half-hearted effort at...

Affairs: From Confrontation to Reconciling

Robin had been feeling for a long time like she was unimportant to her husband.  He didn’t seem to be interested in talking with her anymore.  He would if he needed to, and he wasn’t complaining to her about anything.  He said, “thank you,” and “good meal,” and “good morning,” but there was something missing from the way he said things.  She couldn’t exactly...

Can I Get My Husband Back from the Other Woman?

Both for the man who is afraid to lose his wife and for the man who no longer cares, there are ways to restore the marriage. Being replaced in your husband’s life by another woman hurts a lot.  You are likely to cycle through periods of anger and sadness and the sickening feeling of how you were betrayed.  Before you throw in the towel on your marriage,...

Affairs in Marriage and Relationships: Questions and Answers

Psychologist, Marriage and Relationship Coach Jack Ito answers some of the common questions he receives from people who have experienced an affair in their marriage or relationship.         1.  “Why should I work on my relationship after my partner had an affair? It’s not fair.” I agree with you (are you surprised?).   There is nothing...

End Your Spouse’s Affair Without Doing More Damage

You will need to use good boundaries and effective communication in order to end the affair and stay connected with your spouse. We can’t agree with things that cause harm to our spouse or our relationship.  Boundaries are necessary, because you must protect not only yourself, but also the relationship from further harm.  That is the job of boundaries.  Later,...

Affair by Spouse? How to Confront Him or Her

You will have to confront your spouse with your knowledge of his or her affair if you hope to save your relationship.  But, what is the best way to do that? I recommend keeping the confrontation simple and short.  It is not a discussion, negotiation, lecture,or interview.  And, it definitely should not be an argument.  A simple and effective way to do it is in...

You Discovered a Sexual or Emotional Affair. What now?

Traditionally, one partner discovers the other to be having an affair after collecting evidence, or after catching their partner “in the act.” The partner who discovers the affair reacts in a hostile or threatening manner and demands that the unfaithful partner  get out.  Either that, or the person who discovers the unfaithfulness leaves or breaks off the...

Sexual Affair or Emotional Affair? Questions and Answers

Do you know the difference between a sexual affair and an emotional affair?  Is one more ok than the other?  Can someone have a “mental affair,” even if he or she isn’t seeing anyone?   If you are dating someone who also is seeing other people, it’s not necessarily an affair. An affair (unfaithfulness or “cheating”) can only happen in a...