Marriage & Relationship Coach

End Spouse’s Affair while Maintaining Emotional Connection

You will need to use both good boundaries and loving communication in order to end your spouse’s affair and stay emotionally connected You can build your relationship while your spouse is in love with another person as long as you keep good boundaries to prevent your spouse from having his or cake and eating it too. Building first is particularly...

Why Men Cheat and Have Affairs

The reasons why men cheat and have affairs are not complex. Understanding them is key to dealing effectively with their unfaithfulness. When it comes to why men cheat and have affairs, women tend to have two problems. First, they tend to overthink the situation and come up with overly complicated answers. Secondly, they tend to believe the reasons that men give...

Wife Having an Affair? Suspicions, Decisions, and Reconciling

If you suspect your wife is having an affair, your next moves can make the difference between reconciling and losing her. Figuring out if your wife is having an affair is not enough. Many men have the fantasy that if they find out their wife is having an affair, that they can then confront them and make up in one step. They expect a response like, “Oh...

Importance of Being Faithful in Marriage

Don’t be deceived. Being unfaithful or opening up your marriage to sex with others will lead to the end of your relationship. Faithful and loving bring fulfillment. Almost on a daily basis, I see relationships which have been destroyed by a lack of fidelity between marriage partners.  Often the unfaithfulness is committed by one partner, but sometimes it...

Get a Cheating Husband Back through Sex–Not Likely

Many women believe that having sex with their separated husbands will keep them faithful or make them want to reconcile.  Nothing could be further from the truth. Men and women are not the same. If a man is having sex with his separated wife, that is an indicator that their relationship is doing pretty well.  The same cannot be said for a woman who is having...

Take a Cheating Spouse Back: 3 Conditions

Take a cheating spouse back only after you rebuild your relationship Many people, in their desire to reconcile, will take a cheating spouse back too quickly.  The problem with this is that their spouses are still overcoming their attraction to someone else and are not fully committed to reconciling.  After returning home, they have only a half-hearted effort at...

Affairs: Getting from Confrontation to Reconnection

Even when your spouse is having an affair, love is still the answer to reconnection and to not giving in to your anger Robin had been feeling for a long time like she was unimportant to her husband.  He didn’t seem to be interested in talking with her anymore.  He would if he needed to, and he wasn’t complaining to her about anything.  He said, “thank you,” and...

Can I Get My Husband Back from the Other Woman?

Both for the man who is afraid to lose his wife and for the man who no longer cares, there are ways to restore the marriage Being replaced in your husband’s life by another woman hurts a lot.  You are likely to cycle through periods of anger and sadness and the sickening feeling of how you were betrayed.  Before you throw in the towel on your marriage,...

Affairs in Marriage: Do’s and Don’ts for Reconciling

Acting on impulse is not the best strategy when you want to reconcile. Follow non-destructive principles until you become more stable. How do you feel?  What do you want?  These are hard questions to answer when your relationship has been turned upside down by an affair. Your answers to these questions may change from day to day, and if you just follow your...

Affair by Spouse? How to Confront When You Want to Rebuild

You will have to confront your spouse with your knowledge of his or her affair if you hope to save your relationship.  But, what is the best way to do that? I recommend keeping the confrontation simple and short.  It is not a discussion, negotiation, lecture,or interview.  And, it definitely should not be an argument.  A simple and effective way to do it is in...