If your wife always complains, don’t make the mistake of just ignoring her. This is a warning sign like a grinding noise in your engine and if you don’t take care of it, you may lose your wife altogether. When your wife first started complaining, you may have tried to do things to make her happy. But, as the complaining continued, you probably felt...

Arguing often indicates a desire to be loved brought on by growing distance.  Are you or your spouse fighting because you are feeling rejected and lonely? Arguing may be your spouse’s way to make sure that you still care.  For couples who have become emotionally distant, arguing is often a substitute for spending quality time together. It draws the other...

Better boundaries in marriage mean more respect, more love, and better communication Do your marriage problems get worse when you talk about them with your spouse?  If so, you may have learned to keep your mouth shut rather than make your problems worse.  But, you know what keeping your mouth shut does?  It slowly drains the love you feel for your spouse.  It...

I was recently interviewed by the editor of an online woman’s journal.  The message she wanted me to give to her readers is:  1) that you should talk to your husband/partner if he is being disrespectful, and 2) if talking doesn’t work, you should leave him.  Needless to say, as a pro-marriage, Christian coach, I did not give her the answers she...

Your husband doesn’t respect you, but he used to.  What’s going on? What is it about your husband that makes him disrespect you?  Some men become disrespectful as soon as the honeymoon is over while others don’t become disrespectful until after a number of years.  This article talks about three particular kinds of disrespectful husbands:  the...

Being patient is more likely to result in divorce, but that doesn’t mean you need do something needy or controlling either. Are you “patiently” drifting further and further away from your spouse?  Problems in your marriage can make you seriously consider whether you married your soul mate or whether you made a big mistake.  When problems happen in...

How to effectively respond to blame and make your marriage better at the same time Blame may play an important role for your spouse.  Because of that, he or she will be reluctant to give it up, even if it is damaging your marriage.  If you can get past your own defensive reaction and take a look at what blame is doing for your spouse, you will be on the path...

Can you get cooperation and fix a marriage when you are both so different?  Absolutely! Most married couples have difficulty solving their relationship problems because they don’t find common ground.  Because they have different goals, they end up trying to justify their position while blaming the other.  Rather than solving problems and fixing a...

You are ready to make up after your fight.  But your spouse isn’t.  How can you respond to this situation in a way that gets your marriage back on track? Whether it was your fault or not, and no matter the reason for the fight, you need to get your marriage back on track. After all, prolonged distance means decreasing love.  But, your spouse may still be...

To understand why your husband is so angry, you need to understand his motivations rather than just focusing on what he is blaming you for When your husband is so angry, it is easy to focus on his behavior. He will either be blaming your or withdrawing from you. These behaviors damage your marriage without really making his life any better.  So why does he...