How to Get Your Spouse to Love and Desire You More
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How to Get Your Spouse to Love and Desire You More

Does it seem like no matter how much you communicate your needs, your spouse just isn’t very loving? Every second of every day, there is some relationship being damaged or lost by well intentioned people. They are sincerely trying to make their relationship closer but the way they are going about it is actually causing…

12 Ways Neediness is Hurting Your Relationship
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12 Ways Neediness is Hurting Your Relationship

How many of these needy characteristics can you find in yourself? Needy characteristics are the silent killer of people’s relationships just as high blood pressure is the silent killer of people’s health. I used to have this problem and was repeatedly damaging my relationships. Fortunately, just like high blood pressure, neediness can be reduced or even…

How to Stop Overthinking and Stressing Out about Your Relationship
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How to Stop Overthinking and Stressing Out about Your Relationship

Do you spend more time worrying about your relationship than you do enjoying it? If you do, you will be more upset when even little upsets happen. You will also tend to overreact to your spouse’s words and behaviors. You will be watchful and try to figure out the deeper meanings behind them.

How to Identify a Needy, Dependent, Codependent, or Secure Spouse
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How to Identify a Needy, Dependent, Codependent, or Secure Spouse

You will never learn how to have a good relationship from following social trends. You must use relationship styles that have worked for thousands of years to have a lasting relationship. In my coaching I encounter three basic relationship styles that cause confusion and conflict for both men and women. Often what people consider to…

How to Trust Your Spouse More without Being a Victim
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How to Trust Your Spouse More without Being a Victim

Are you always on guard because you don’t trust your spouse? Have you been repeatedly deceived? What can you do rather than just being patient and forgiving? I don’t think anyone wants to go throughout their day with some gut feeling that their spouse is up to something. The more we have been deceived, the…

Go from Needy to Secure to Save Your Relationship
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Go from Needy to Secure to Save Your Relationship

Are you feeling frustrated and angry in your relationship because your partner is not making the changes you need to feel loved?  Replace needy ineffective behaviors with secure behaviors to get him or her to make the changes you want. A needy person is not what you think. Needy does not refer to dependent.  A…

5 Key Principles for Using Boundaries to Improve Your Marriage
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5 Key Principles for Using Boundaries to Improve Your Marriage

Although the effective use of boundaries can mean the difference between a good relationship and a bad one. Many people are confused about what boundaries are and how to use them. Have you tried to get your spouse to stop doing something by using boundaries? If it hasn’t worked, it’s probably because you were not…

How Neediness is Killing Your Relationship
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How Neediness is Killing Your Relationship

If you are needy, the future of your relationship depends on your willingness to: 1) be loving, and 2) to apply healthy boundaries “Needy” people put up with behavior from their significant others that most people would not tolerate.They frequently seek reassurance and are vigilant to any sign of rejection or threat to their relationship….

Why Patience is Not a Virtue when it Comes to Saving Your Marriage
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Why Patience is Not a Virtue when it Comes to Saving Your Marriage

What do “patience,” and “kissing frogs,” have in common? They are both equally ineffective ways to turn your partner into Prince or Princess Charming. If you are single, you are far better off finding someone less frog like.  If you are married, it is time to stop using patience as a method to get your spouse to…