Go from Needy to Secure to Save Your Relationship
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Go from Needy to Secure to Save Your Relationship

Are you feeling frustrated and angry in your relationship because your partner is not making the changes you need to feel loved?  Replace needy ineffective behaviors with secure behaviors to get him or her to make the changes you want. A needy person is not what you think. Needy does not refer to dependent.  A…

5 Key Principles for Using Boundaries to Improve Your Marriage
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5 Key Principles for Using Boundaries to Improve Your Marriage

Although the effective use of boundaries can mean the difference between a good relationship and a bad one. Many people are confused about what boundaries are and how to use them. Have you tried to get your spouse to stop doing something by using boundaries? If it hasn’t worked, it’s probably because you were not…

How to Become More Secure and Trusting in Your Marriage
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How to Become More Secure and Trusting in Your Marriage

Are you always on guard because you don’t trust your spouse? Have you been repeatedly deceived? What can you do rather than just being patient and forgiving? As trust decreases, we enjoy each other less, then our loving feelings for each other decrease. The result? Loveless, sexless, business style marriages. This article will help you…

How Neediness is Killing Your Relationship
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How Neediness is Killing Your Relationship

If you are needy, the future of your relationship depends on your willingness to: 1) be loving, and 2) to apply healthy boundaries “Needy” people put up with behavior from their significant others that most people would not tolerate.They frequently seek reassurance and are vigilant to any sign of rejection or threat to their relationship….

Why Patience is Not a Virtue when it Comes to Saving Your Marriage
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Why Patience is Not a Virtue when it Comes to Saving Your Marriage

What do “patience,” and “kissing frogs,” have in common? They are both equally ineffective ways to turn your partner into Prince or Princess Charming. If you are single, you are far better off finding someone less frog like.  If you are married, it is time to stop using patience as a method to get your spouse to…

12 Ways Neediness is Hurting Your Relationship
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12 Ways Neediness is Hurting Your Relationship

How many of these needy characteristics can you find in yourself? Needy characteristics are the silent killer of people’s relationships just as high blood pressure is the silent killer of people’s health, Fortunately, just like high blood pressure, neediness can be reduced, Doing this will help you have loving, satisfying, relationships. 

How to Get More Love from Your Spouse
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How to Get More Love from Your Spouse

Get love by creating desire, not by creating obligation. Every second of every day, there is some relationship being damaged or lost because of neediness.  For every spouse I help to get more love, there is some aspect of overcoming neediness.  Working to eliminate this neediness can significantly boost the amount of love you receive…

How to Stop Overthinking and Stressing Out about Your Relationship
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How to Stop Overthinking and Stressing Out about Your Relationship

Overthinking your relationship will increase your feelings of stress and insecurity. This in turn will make it much more likely that you will say or do harmful things to your relationship.  The more harmful things you say or do, the more insecurity and stress you will have and so the downward spiral goes.  If you learn…

How to Know if You Are a Needy, Codependent, or Secure Spouse
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How to Know if You Are a Needy, Codependent, or Secure Spouse

Are you a needy spouse or married to one? Are you a codependent for your spouse’s damaging behavior? A few changes can help you to be a secure, loving couple again In my daily coaching I encounter three basic relationship styles that cause confusion and conflict for both men and women.  Couples are confused because…