Marriage & Relationship Coach

Signs Your Marriage Is Over–And Not

By far, the the bigger mistake people mistake is thinking that their marriage is over when it is not. This is a false conclusion which comes from not knowing what to try next For every person who works with me to save their marriage, there are many others who have given up in the very same situation. Too many people think that when their spouse has given up,...

Should You Keep Wearing Your Wedding Ring if Your Spouse Isn’t?

A common question I hear from clients in the process of reconciling is “should I keep wearing my ring, even though my husband/wife took off his/hers?” Considerations for reconciling The actions we take and the words we use have the power to hurt and to heal.  We should never take actions for the express purpose of hurting someone.  But, what if that person has...

Is It too Late to Save Your Marriage?

The vast majority of people give up on their marriages too soon. Lack of progress calls for different methods–it doesn’t mean it is too late to save your marriage I often receive emails from people asking if it is too late to save their marriage. They have done everything that they know how to do, but are not making progress. For these people, there...

Reconciling after a Long Separation: Working toward Love and Commitment

The longer you wait for your spouse to reconcile, the more your window of opportunity will close. Steps to reconciling after a long separation. I often receive email from people who have been separated for anywhere from six months to 5 years.  Typically they ask me what the chances are for reconciling their marriages. It really isn’t possible to say based...

When is My Marriage Over?

Many people give up too soon on their marriages, believing them to be over when they are not. Much of the time, they just require a lot of the right kind of work Most of the people I help to reconcile have spouses who have said, “It’s over.” What this really means is, “the way I think and feel right now is that I do not want to continue my relationship...

When Your Wife Wants to Separate

Your marriage is not over when your wife wants to separate.  Handled correctly, this can be a good opportunity for your marriage to become better than ever. If you are like most of the men I work with and your wife wants to separate, that came as a complete surprise to you.  Even if your relationship has been poor for years, you thought that she would never...

How Can I Get My Husband Back?

Getting your husband to come back to you requires that you understand things from his perspective and not merely what you want. If your husband is leaving you, it is because he believes he has much more to gain than to lose.  Another way to put it is that he is afraid of losing what he could have without you.  That may be another woman, but it might also be a...

How to Deal with Your Own Jealousy

Jealousy sends the message that you don’t trust your spouse. It also makes you appear more needy. The result is an increased risk of losing your partner A jealousy self test How many of the following statements can you answer “yes” to? I am concerned that I am losing my partner’s affection and that it is being given, or will be given to someone...

Separation Boundaries to Promote Reconciliation

Are you using good separation boundaries to prevent your spouse from having his (or her) cake and eating it, too? Many people do reconcile after separation.  Many people do not.  What makes the difference between these two groups?  In my experience, the single most important factor is the behavior of the partner who wants to save the relationship. Two...

Making Your Relationship a Priority

Failing to make your relationship a priority will ultimately result in your spouse no longer making your relationship a priority. Whatever you prioritize in life, you can keep.  Are your priorities making your link to your spouse stronger or weaker?  What change do you need to make in your priorities to keep your relationship strong? The priorities that seem to...