Marriage & Relationship Coach

Separation Boundaries to Promote Reconciliation

Are you using good separation boundaries to prevent your spouse from having his (or her) cake and eating it, too? Many people do reconcile after separation.  Many people do not.  What makes the difference between these two groups?  In my experience, the single most important factor is the behavior of the partner who wants to save the relationship. Two...

Making Your Relationship a Priority

Failing to make your relationship a priority will ultimately result in your spouse no longer making your relationship a priority. Whatever you prioritize in life, you can keep.  Are your priorities making your link to your spouse stronger or weaker?  What change do you need to make in your priorities to keep your relationship strong? The priorities that seem to...

Does Your Husband Refuse to Go to Marriage Counseling?

Simple steps to convince your husband to go to marriage counseling There are some good reasons why your husband refuses marriage coaching or marriage counseling.  If you want to convince your husband to go, you will need to overcome these objections and show him what is in it for him.  Here are some ideas that will get you (and him) started. Use questions...

Husband Needs Time to Figure Out What He Wants?

Your husband has told you that he needs time to figure out what he wants  and is moving out so he can do that. What you need to know is that by the time your husband says this to you, he has already done his thinking. He already knows what he wants to do. What he is really saying By the time a man wants to move out, he has already decided what he wants to do....

Preventing Marriage Failure

Marriage doesn’t protect you. You must protect your marriage. I have worked with thousands of men, women, and couples over the last 20+ years.  In this article, I want to share with you what I have observed to be the most common causes for marriage and relationship breakdowns.  Although the divorce rate and rate of unhappy marriages is very high, people...

Is There Hope for Your Marriage?

There are two kinds of evidence to consider when determining if there is hope for your marriage–what your spouse is doing, and what you are doing.  If your spouse:  1) is not committed to someone else, 2) has regular contact with you, and 3) you are willing to use effective methods, then there is hope for your marriage.  If one of these three criteria are...

Does Giving Space Help to Reconcile with a Separated Spouse?

Giving space can be unbearable for you, while your spouse gets used to being without you While absence can make a heart grow fonder, that is only true for a heart that is fond in the first place.  If your spouse no longer loves you, is angry, or resentful, or seriously wants a divorce, then giving space will not help you to reconcile.  On the contrary, giving...

How to Reconcile with a Separated Wife

If you are willing to focus on a step by step approach, you can reconcile with your wife If I asked your wife if she loved you, she would probably tell me that she loves you, but that she is not in-love with you. Regardless of what has gone on in your marriage up to this point, this is the main obstacle to your reconciling.  Because she does not know how to...

When Your Spouse Won’t Go to Marriage Counseling

Your spouse’s refusal to go to marriage counseling might not be as bad as you think.   People who want to go to marriage counseling often feel stuck if their spouse refuses to go.  This does not spell doom for your marriage and it doesn’t necessarily mean that your spouse doesn’t want improvement also. The top reasons spouses don’t...

How to Keep Your Wife from Leaving You

Women who don’t feel loved eventually fall out of love with their husbands.  They won’t immediately think about leaving, but they will if you don’t take action.  I work with many men who are in the process of winning their wives back.  In most cases, although they loved their wives throughout their marriage, they did not do a good job of...