Marriage & Relationship Coach

Is It too Late to Save Your Marriage?

The vast majority of people give up on their marriages too soon. Lack of progress calls for different methods–it doesn’t mean it is too late to save your marriage I often receive emails from people asking if it is too late to save their marriage. They have done everything that they know how to do, but are not making progress. For these people, there...

Reconciling after a Long Separation: Working toward Love and Commitment

The longer you wait for your spouse to reconcile, the more your window of opportunity will close. Steps to reconciling after a long separation. I often receive email from people who have been separated for anywhere from six months to 5 years.  Typically they ask me what the chances are for reconciling their marriages. It really isn’t possible to say based...

When Your Wife Wants to Separate

Your marriage is not over when your wife wants to separate.  Handled correctly, this can be a good opportunity for your marriage to become better than ever. If you are like most of the men I work with and your wife wants to separate, that came as a complete surprise to you.  Even if your relationship has been poor for years, you thought that she would never...

Separation Boundaries to Promote Reconciliation

Are you using good separation boundaries to prevent your spouse from having his (or her) cake and eating it, too? Many people do reconcile after separation.  Many people do not.  What makes the difference between these two groups?  In my experience, the single most important factor is the behavior of the partner who wants to save the relationship. Two...

Making Your Relationship a Priority

Failing to make your relationship a priority will ultimately result in your spouse no longer making your relationship a priority. Whatever you prioritize in life, you can keep.  Are your priorities making your link to your spouse stronger or weaker?  What change do you need to make in your priorities to keep your relationship strong? The priorities that seem to...

Husband Refuse Marriage Counseling?

Simple steps to convince your husband to go to marriage counseling There are some good reasons that could make your husband refuse marriage counseling.  Fortunately, you can overcome his objections by helping him to see what is in it for him. Here are some ideas that you can use to motivate him. Use questions rather than statements If you try to tell your...

Husband Needs Time to Figure Out What He Wants?

Your husband has told you that he needs time to figure out what he wants  and is moving out so he can do that. What you need to know is that by the time your husband says this to you, he has already done his thinking. He already knows what he wants to do. What he is really saying By the time a man wants to move out, he has already decided what he wants to do....

Preventing Marriage Failure

Marriage doesn’t protect you. You must protect your marriage. I have worked with thousands of men, women, and couples over the last 20+ years.  In this article, I want to share with you what I have observed to be the most common causes for marriage and relationship breakdowns.  Although the divorce rate and rate of unhappy marriages is very high, people...

Is There Hope for Your Marriage?

There are two kinds of evidence to consider when determining if there is hope for your marriage–what your spouse is doing, and what you are doing.  If your spouse:  1) is not committed to someone else, 2) has regular contact with you, and 3) you are willing to use effective methods, then there is hope for your marriage.  If one of these three criteria are...

Does Giving Space Help to Reconcile with a Separated Spouse?

Giving space can be unbearable for you, while your spouse gets used to being without you While absence can make a heart grow fonder, that is only true for a heart that is fond in the first place.  If your spouse no longer loves you, is angry, or resentful, or seriously wants a divorce, then giving space will not help you to reconcile.  On the contrary, giving...