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Do you communicate to your spouse what you want in a direct, clear, and positive way? Learning to do so can help your spouse to enjoy talking with you more and help you get more of what you want from your spouse. What do you usually do when your spouse is doing something you don’t…
Love and respect go hand in hand. If you want your spouse or partner to love you more, you are going to have to make sure you have earned his or her respect.
Do you walk on eggshells around your angry spouse? Are you frustrated trying to get your spouse to understand how he or she makes you feel? If so, it’s time to learn to use boundaries to help your spouse be less angry, and to help the both of you have a closer relationship. If you…
Sometimes arguing is an attempt to address a legitimate issue, sometimes it signals a desire for more closeness, and sometimes it is a signal of an impending affair or divorce. If your spouse is picking arguments, you will need to be able to discern and respond correctly. At the beginning of marriage, arguments are common….
Do you feel like giving up on your marriage? Before you do that, make sure you have done all you can to make it better for you and your spouse. As a relationship coach I help people to turn around even very bad marriages. They hire me after they have tried on their own to…
Managing money seems like a matter of logic. But, as with many issues, just presenting the facts is likely to create conflict. You can learn how to stop your spouse’s overspending using a win-win approach that takes into account desires as well as needs. Creating positive change in your relationship never requires conflict. Sometimes boundaries…
Is your spouse resistant to going on dates with you and never satisfied when you do? I want to give you a way to create in your spouse a desire to date you. In my first meeting with clients, I ask three questions that tell me how emotionally connected their marriage is. One is about…
Can you get cooperation and fix a marriage when you are very different from each other? Absolutely! The main reason couples have difficulty solving their relationship problems is because they don’t work to find common ground. They want to fix the biggest differences so badly that they tackle those head on. The big differences reflect differences…
Do you know which of the four motivators is making your husband be so angry? Figuring that out will help you deal with him effectively. When your husband is angry, it forces you to focus on his emotion and his words. At that time he will either be blaming you or criticizing you. His behaviors…
Arguments always have two components–the actual practical issue, and the way people feel about the issue. A one step approach of presenting facts won’t get you to a better relationship. A two step approach will be much easier. People have different values concerning how money should be spent or saved. They also have different ideas…