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Is the hardest part about dating your spouse being able to agree on what to do or where to go on your date? There is a way to make it easier and more enjoyable. Do you find yourself compromising on dates with your spouse, or worse yet, not even going dates because of your different…
Fighting in marriage is an attempt to coerce or persuade a spouse to do things they don’t want to do. It always creates stress and emotional distancing, even when it works. Arguing or fighting as some people like to say is never healthy for relationships. It is normal only in the sense that it is…
Are you ready to be part of the solution by learning how to effectively respond, rather than react, to your spouse’s blaming, criticism, or verbal abuse? It is time for you to realize that if your spouse is repeatedly blaming, criticizing, or verbally abusing you, what you are doing to stop it does not work….
It’s easy to be confused with all the advice on dealing with a spouse’s affair. Here are some principles to help you cut through the false information. Today, I will address the following questions:
Blaming is one of several damaging behaviors that people unwittingly reward their spouse for doing. Just as giving candy to a tantruming child won’t result in fewer tantrums, your reactions to your spouse’s blaming may be getting you more and more blaming. It makes a difference whether your spouse blames you a lot or a…
Do you know the difference between a sexual affair and an emotional affair? Is one more ok than the other? Can someone have a “mental affair,” even if he or she isn’t seeing anyone? Have you ever had a feeling your partner was cheating on you? You may have seen or heard something that made you suspect…
Although most spouses say they want a divorce because of problems in the marriage, rarely is that the actual reason. Understanding the real reason your spouse wants a divorce will help you know how to work on reconciling. People are often shocked when their spouse wants a divorce. Yet, when I ask them how their relationship…
Here is what you can do to eliminate parenting conflict without going to marriage counseling Taking the direct approach with a disagreeable spouse is like going head to head with a mountain goat. A disagreeable spouse will not back down, will not be reasonable, and will not admit you are right–no matter how much evidence…
Badgering your spouse to end an addiction will do more harm than good. You need to combine love and good boundaries if you want to see things change. Trying to build a relationship with an addicted spouse is frustrating and prone to failure. Just when you think you are making progress, you will find your…
Do you communicate to your spouse what you want in a direct, clear, and positive way? Learning to do so can help your spouse to enjoy talking with you more and help you get more of what you want from your spouse. What do you usually do when your spouse is doing something you don’t…