Marriage & Relationship Coach

Stop Resenting Your Spouse, Improve Your Relationship

To stop resenting your spouse you will need to change a belief, an expectation, and a behavior. Then, you will have more of the love, appreciation, and attention that you want Resentment is created when we do things for someone else, expecting something in return. We may simply want recognition and appreciation for our service. Or, we may want our spouses to...

Trial Separation–Helpful or harmful for reconciling?

A trial separation is a time limited, structured separation, best used when both spouses want to build their relationship. Unstructured separations, on the other hand, are much more helpful when only one spouse wants to reconcile. Trial separation is a method commonly used by marriage counselors. Marriage counselors work with couples when both want to rebuild...

Marital Separation: Do’s and Don’ts

Marital separation (living in different homes), can be a good opportunity for rebuilding your relationship. It can also result in ending your relationship if not done in a good way. When you are separated, you are likely to be overly focused on ending the separation. This is natural because you miss your spouse and just want to be together again. However, you...

Separated while Living Together: Not Conducive to Reconciling

Real separation is very different from being separated while living together. Behaving as if you are separated while living together does damage that makes reconciling much less likely The dynamics of being separated (living in different homes) creates greater opportunities for connection, respect building, and reconciliation. Considering yourself to be...

Why Men Cheat and Have Affairs

The reasons why men cheat and have affairs are not complex. Understanding them is key to dealing effectively with their unfaithfulness. When it comes to why men cheat and have affairs, women tend to have two problems. First, they tend to overthink the situation and come up with overly complicated answers. Secondly, they tend to believe the reasons that men give...

Reconciling with a Husband Who Hates You (or Seems to)

Have you found it impossible to reconnect with your husband because he is so angry and rejecting? It is possible to reconnect, but probably not the way you think. In my 20 plus years of experience in counseling and coaching, there are two basic misconceptions that men and women have that make it difficult to reconcile. The first is the belief that talking about...

Reconciling with a Wife Who Hates You

There are four major steps you need to take if you want to reconcile with a wife who hates you When your wife says she hates you or is behaving that way, it is an honest reflection of her feelings. Men who want to reconcile with their wives often approach this from an analytical perspective–evaluating evidence, arguing, and attempting to persuade their wives to...

Signs Your Marriage Is Over–And Not

By far, the the bigger mistake people mistake is thinking that their marriage is over when it is not. This is a false conclusion which comes from not knowing what to try next For every person who works with me to save their marriage, there are many others who have given up in the very same situation. Too many people think that when their spouse has given up,...

Wife Having an Affair? Suspicions, Decisions, and Reconciling

If you suspect your wife is having an affair, your next moves can make the difference between reconciling and losing her. Figuring out if your wife is having an affair is not enough. Many men have the fantasy that if they find out their wife is having an affair, that they can then confront them and make up in one step. They expect a response like, “Oh...

Wife always Complains? Positive Actions for Relationship Improvement

If your wife always complains, don’t make the mistake of just ignoring her. This is a warning sign like a grinding noise in your engine and if you don’t take care of it, you may lose your wife altogether. When your wife first started complaining, you may have tried to do things to make her happy. But, as the complaining continued, you probably felt...