The reasons why men cheat and have affairs are not complex. Understanding them is key to dealing effectively with their unfaithfulness. When it comes to why men cheat and have affairs, women tend to have two problems. First, they tend to overthink the situation and come up with overly complicated answers. Secondly, they tend to believe the reasons that men give...

Have you found it impossible to reconnect with your husband because he is so angry and rejecting? It is possible to reconnect, but probably not the way you think. In my 20 plus years of experience in counseling and coaching, there are two basic misconceptions that men and women have that make it difficult to reconcile. The first is the belief that talking about...

There are four major steps you need to take if you want to reconcile with a wife who hates you When your wife says she hates you or is behaving that way, it is an honest reflection of her feelings. Men who want to reconcile with their wives often approach this from an analytical perspective–evaluating evidence, arguing, and attempting to persuade their wives to...

By far, the the bigger mistake people mistake is thinking that their marriage is over when it is not. This is a false conclusion which comes from not knowing what to try next For every person who works with me to save their marriage, there are many others who have given up in the very same situation. Too many people think that when their spouse has given up,...

If you suspect your wife is having an affair, your next moves can make the difference between reconciling and losing her. Figuring out if your wife is having an affair is not enough. Many men have the fantasy that if they find out their wife is having an affair, that they can then confront them and make up in one step. They expect a response like, “Oh...

If your wife always complains, don’t make the mistake of just ignoring her. This is a warning sign like a grinding noise in your engine and if you don’t take care of it, you may lose your wife altogether. When your wife first started complaining, you may have tried to do things to make her happy. But, as the complaining continued, you probably felt...

A common question I hear from clients in the process of reconciling is “should I keep wearing my ring, even though my husband/wife took off his/hers?” Considerations for reconciling The actions we take and the words we use have the power to hurt and to heal.  We should never take actions for the express purpose of hurting someone.  But, what if that person has...

A sexless marriage is often a result of other problems in the relationship.  Addressing those other problems first can contribute to a healthy sexual relationship and strengthen your marriage   Women too often underestimate the importance of an ongoing sexual relationship to the health of their marriage.  Women need to realize the importance of sex and...

There is no single cause or cure for a relationship with a mean and disrespectful man. The place to start improving your marriage is determining why he is this way. Is your husband mean and disrespectful?  Do you know the real reason why he is behaving this way?  Some men have always been this way, while others have only become this way recently.  You need to...

One of the obstacles to reconciling is failing to believe your wife is not in love with you anymore.  You will have more success in reconciling with her if you accept this than if you don’t. Women can and do fall out of love.  Love is not some fixed quality like having an arm or a head.  It can come and go.  Which also means that it can come back again. ...