Marriage & Relationship Coach

Why Your Husband Is Mean and Disrespectful

There is no single cause or cure for a relationship with a mean and disrespectful man. The place to start improving your marriage is determining why he is this way. Is your husband mean and disrespectful?  Do you know the real reason why he is behaving this way?  Some men have always been this way, while others have only become this way recently.  You need to...

Is My Wife REALLY Not in Love with Me Anymore?

One of the obstacles to reconciling is failing to believe your wife is not in love with you anymore.  You will have more success in reconciling with her if you accept this than if you don’t. Women can and do fall out of love.  Love is not some fixed quality like having an arm or a head.  It can come and go.  Which also means that it can come back again. ...

When to Talk and Not Talk about Relationship Problems

Some people believe that we should always talk about relationship problems and others think that we should never talk about relationship problems.  The truth is somewhere in between. Obviously, communication is an important aspect of any relationship.  But, it is not communication per se that builds relationships.  Rather it is both the way the we talk about...

Is It too Late to Save Your Marriage?

The vast majority of people give up on their marriages too soon. Lack of progress calls for different methods–it doesn’t mean it is too late to save your marriage I often receive emails from people asking if it is too late to save their marriage. They have done everything that they know how to do, but are not making progress. For these people, there...

Wife Just Wants to be Friends? Responding Correctly

What does it mean when your wife  just wants to be friends? How you handle this situation can make the difference between reconciling and not My specialty is reconciling relationships when one part no longer is in love and wants out. As you can imagine, the more damage that has been done to the relationship, the longer it is likely to take. However, it is not...

Reconciling after a Long Separation: Working toward Love and Commitment

The longer you wait for your spouse to reconcile, the more your window of opportunity will close. Steps to reconciling after a long separation. I often receive email from people who have been separated for anywhere from six months to 5 years.  Typically they ask me what the chances are for reconciling their marriages. It really isn’t possible to say based...

Get a Cheating Husband Back through Sex–Not Likely

Many women believe that having sex with their separated husbands will keep them faithful or make them want to reconcile.  Nothing could be further from the truth. Men and women are not the same. If a man is having sex with his separated wife, that is an indicator that their relationship is doing pretty well.  The same cannot be said for a woman who is having...

Angry Spouse? Stop Walking on Eggshells and Save Your Marriage

Are you being careful not to upset your angry spouse? Like giving in to a bully, that will only encourage your spouse to use anger to control and manipulate you Many people take the approach of trying to anticipate what will make their spouses angry and try to prevent that.  This walking on eggshells approach is never completely successful.  Being careful as a...

When Your Wife Wants to Separate

Your marriage is not over when your wife wants to separate.  Handled correctly, this can be a good opportunity for your marriage to become better than ever. If you are like most of the men I work with and your wife wants to separate, that came as a complete surprise to you.  Even if your relationship has been poor for years, you thought that she would never...

Separation Boundaries to Promote Reconciliation

Are you using good separation boundaries to prevent your spouse from having his (or her) cake and eating it, too? Many people do reconcile after separation.  Many people do not.  What makes the difference between these two groups?  In my experience, the single most important factor is the behavior of the partner who wants to save the relationship. Two...