How to Get More Respect and Love from Your Spouse
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How to Get More Respect and Love from Your Spouse

When you lose your spouse’s respect, your relationship continues to deteriorate. You can regain that respect and get more love at the same time. If you feel like your spouse looks down on you, he or she probably does. Your spouse may either try to control you or make you feel inadequate. He or she…

An Interview with Dr. Jack Ito about Disrespectful Men
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An Interview with Dr. Jack Ito about Disrespectful Men

I was recently interviewed by the editor of an online woman’s journal.  The message she wanted me to give to her readers is:  1) that you should talk to your husband/partner if he is being disrespectful, and 2) if talking doesn’t work, you should leave him.  Needless to say, as a pro-marriage, Christian coach, I…

Talking About Marriage Problems
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Talking About Marriage Problems

Does it really help to talk to your spouse about the problems in your marriage?  Although many people assume that’s the right thing to do, often it makes things worse.  Repeatedly having unproductive talks about marriage problems can cause both of you to stop talking about anything but the weather.  And when the talking stops,…

How to Get More Respect and Love from Your Spouse
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How to Get More Respect and Love from Your Spouse

Love and respect are intimately connected–but respect comes first Respect and love are not things we think of much in our marriage until they aren’t there anymore.  Neither of these things disappear in a single day, and the drain can be so slow that we are surprised when they’re gone.  You find out your spouse…

When Your Spouse Won’t Go to Marriage Counseling
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When Your Spouse Won’t Go to Marriage Counseling

Getting a reluctant spouse to go to marriage counseling is usually counterproductive. There is a much better approach that you can use until he or she is ready.   People who want to go to marriage counseling often feel stuck if their spouse refuses to go.  This does not spell doom for your marriage and…

Should I Patiently Wait for My Spouse to Change?
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Should I Patiently Wait for My Spouse to Change?

Being patient is more likely to result in divorce, but that doesn’t mean you need do something needy or controlling either. Are you “patiently” drifting further and further away from your spouse?  Problems in your marriage can make you seriously consider whether you married your soul mate or whether you made a big mistake.  When…

How to Fix Your Marriage and Get Your Spouse to Cooperate
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How to Fix Your Marriage and Get Your Spouse to Cooperate

Can you get cooperation and fix a marriage when you are both so different?  Absolutely! Most married couples have difficulty solving their relationship problems because they don’t find common ground.  Because they have different goals, they end up trying to justify their position while blaming the other.  Rather than solving problems and fixing a marriage,…

How to Show Love in Marriage and Get More Love in Return
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How to Show Love in Marriage and Get More Love in Return

Helping our spouse to feel loved and important is the best way for us to protect and strengthen our marriages Many people mistakenly assume that their spouses know they are loved. If someone asked your spouse how they know that they are loved by you, what would they have to say? Hopefully, they would be…

Why Your Husband Is So Angry and What to Do About It
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Why Your Husband Is So Angry and What to Do About It

To understand why your husband is so angry, you need to understand his motivations rather than just focusing on what he is blaming you for When your husband is so angry, it is easy to focus on his behavior. He will either be blaming your or withdrawing from you. These behaviors damage your marriage without…

How to Make Your Wife Feel Loved and Stay with You
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How to Make Your Wife Feel Loved and Stay with You

Women who don’t feel loved eventually fall out of love and leave their husbands. Learning how to make her feel loved now can prevent a world of hurt later. I work with many men who are in the process of winning their wives back. In most cases, although they loved their wives throughout their marriage,…