How to Know if You Are a Needy, Codependent, or Secure Spouse
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How to Know if You Are a Needy, Codependent, or Secure Spouse

Are you a needy spouse or married to one? Are you a codependent for your spouse’s damaging behavior? A few changes can help you to be a secure, loving couple again In my daily coaching I encounter three basic relationship styles that cause confusion and conflict for both men and women.  Couples are confused because…

How to Get Your Spouse to Change for the Sake of Your Marriage
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How to Get Your Spouse to Change for the Sake of Your Marriage

To get your spouse to change, work on effectively responding to what your spouse is or is not doing If you are like many dissatisfied spouses, you can identify some significant problems that your spouse has.  It may be that the only way for your relationship to improve is to somehow get your spouse to…

I Changed Like She Wanted, So Why Won’t My Wife Come Back to Me?
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I Changed Like She Wanted, So Why Won’t My Wife Come Back to Me?

Okay, you messed up in the past, but now you are doing all that she ever wanted plus more. Still, your wife won’t come back. What’s going on? Some men are in such a rush to reconcile that they make mistakes like pressuring their wives, offering solutions to problems their wives currently have no interest…

What Should I Tell My Adult Children about My Marriage Problems?
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What Should I Tell My Adult Children about My Marriage Problems?

Sooner or later your adult children are going to know there is a problem. When you want to reconcile with your spouse, you must be careful not to alienate your spouse from the kids Many people find out the hard way that confiding in their adult children about their marriage problems is not always the…

How to Go from Confronting an Affair to Reconnecting and Reconciling
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How to Go from Confronting an Affair to Reconnecting and Reconciling

Even when your spouse is having an affair, love is still the answer to reconnection and to not giving in to your anger Robin had been feeling for a long time like she was unimportant to her husband.  He didn’t seem to be interested in talking with her anymore.  He would if he needed to,…

4 Things NOT to Do When You Have an Alcoholic Spouse
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4 Things NOT to Do When You Have an Alcoholic Spouse

If you have an alcoholic spouse, you may be making one of these four mistakes. Changing even that one thing can give your relationship a real boost.  Everyone wants to have a good marriage or relationship.  People who have an alcoholic spouse want to have a good relationship.  Even alcoholic spouses, want to have good…

How to Improve Your Relationship with an Anxious or Depressed Spouse
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How to Improve Your Relationship with an Anxious or Depressed Spouse

Stop waiting for your anxious or depressed spouse to recover before working on your relationship. Make the best of what you have now. Loving your husband or wife means more than just committing to live in the same house and help with the chores.  It means being a good partner and doing what you can…

How to Improve a Relationship with a Husband who has Psychological Problems
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How to Improve a Relationship with a Husband who has Psychological Problems

Are you trying so hard to help your spouse with his psychological disorder that you have stopped being a partner and are more like a mother? Good intentions don’t always make a good relationship.  When help becomes excessive, partnership becomes parenting.  When that happens, his sexual interest falls, he will go to you for help…

How to Love a Spouse with Psychological Problems without Burning Out
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How to Love a Spouse with Psychological Problems without Burning Out

If your spouse has psychological problems, you have to have a balance between taking care of your spouse and taking care of yourself If your spouse has an ongoing psychological problem, such as anxiety, depression, ADHD, or OCD, it’s easy to change from being a partner to being a martyr.   You know if you are…

How to Make the Best of Living with a Mentally Ill Spouse
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How to Make the Best of Living with a Mentally Ill Spouse

If you are living with a mentally ill spouse, you will need to be able to accept the aspects of their diagnosis that can’t change, and do something about the relational factors that can change. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, each year about one fourth of US adults suffer from a diagnosable…