An Interview with Dr. Jack Ito about Disrespectful Men
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An Interview with Dr. Jack Ito about Disrespectful Men

I was recently interviewed by the editor of an online woman’s journal.  The message she wanted me to give to her readers is:  1) that you should talk to your husband/partner if he is being disrespectful, and 2) if talking doesn’t work, you should leave him.  Needless to say, as a pro-marriage, Christian coach, I…

Talking About Marriage Problems
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Talking About Marriage Problems

Does it really help to talk to your spouse about the problems in your marriage?  Although many people assume that’s the right thing to do, often it makes things worse.  Repeatedly having unproductive talks about marriage problems can cause both of you to stop talking about anything but the weather.  And when the talking stops,…

Are You Confusing Love and Respect? Respect Comes First
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Are You Confusing Love and Respect? Respect Comes First

Love and respect are intimately connected–but respect comes first Respect and love are not things we think of much in our marriage until they aren’t there anymore.  Neither of these things disappear in a single day, and the drain can be so slow that we are surprised when they’re gone.  You find out your spouse…

When Your Spouse Won’t Go to Marriage Counseling
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When Your Spouse Won’t Go to Marriage Counseling

Getting a reluctant spouse to go to marriage counseling is usually counterproductive. There is a much better approach that you can use until he or she is ready.   People who want to go to marriage counseling often feel stuck if their spouse refuses to go.  This does not spell doom for your marriage and…

Should I Patiently Wait for My Spouse to Change?
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Should I Patiently Wait for My Spouse to Change?

Being patient is more likely to result in divorce, but that doesn’t mean you need do something needy or controlling either. Are you “patiently” drifting further and further away from your spouse?  Problems in your marriage can make you seriously consider whether you married your soul mate or whether you made a big mistake.  When…

How to Show Love in Marriage and Get More Love in Return
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How to Show Love in Marriage and Get More Love in Return

Helping our spouse to feel loved and important is the best way for us to protect and strengthen our marriages Many people mistakenly assume that their spouses know they are loved. If someone asked your spouse how they know that they are loved by you, what would they have to say? Hopefully, they would be…