Marriage & Relationship Coach

Emotional and Physical Intimacy in Marriage

Intimacy in marriage feels good and protects your relationship from stagnation and unfaithfulness. Do you know what intimacy means and how to have more of it with your spouse? Having a good understanding of what intimacy in marriage is can help you to behave in a way that will help you have more intimacy and a more satisfying relationship. It can also help you...

Have More Emotional Intimacy with a Difficult Spouse

Your spouse used to enjoy emotional intimacy with you, but now seems to more interested in work, social media, or TV. How can you become close again? Before getting married, most couples enjoy spending a lot of time together doing things just because they like to be with each other. After getting married, the same couples can become emotionally detached. With...

Stop Resenting Your Spouse, Improve Your Relationship

To stop resenting your spouse you will need to change a belief, an expectation, and a behavior. Then, you will have more of the love, appreciation, and attention that you want Resentment is created when we do things for someone else, expecting something in return. We may simply want recognition and appreciation for our service. Or, we may want our spouses to...

Trial Separation–Helpful or harmful for reconciling?

A trial separation is a time limited, structured separation, best used when both spouses want to build their relationship. Unstructured separations, on the other hand, are much more helpful when only one spouse wants to reconcile. Trial separation is a method commonly used by marriage counselors. Marriage counselors work with couples when both want to rebuild...

Marital Separation: Do’s and Don’ts

Marital separation (living in different homes), can be a good opportunity for rebuilding your relationship. It can also result in ending your relationship if not done in a good way. When you are separated, you are likely to be overly focused on ending the separation. This is natural because you miss your spouse and just want to be together again. However, you...

Separated while Living Together: Not Conducive to Reconciling

Real separation is very different from being separated while living together. Behaving as if you are separated while living together does damage that makes reconciling much less likely The dynamics of being separated (living in different homes) creates greater opportunities for connection, respect building, and reconciliation. Considering yourself to be...

Reconciling with a Husband Who Hates You (or Seems to)

Have you found it impossible to reconnect with your husband because he is so angry and rejecting? It is possible to reconnect, but probably not the way you think. In my 20 plus years of experience in counseling and coaching, there are two basic misconceptions that men and women have that make it difficult to reconcile. The first is the belief that talking about...

Reconciling with a Wife Who Hates You

There are four major steps you need to take if you want to reconcile with a wife who hates you When your wife says she hates you or is behaving that way, it is an honest reflection of her feelings. Men who want to reconcile with their wives often approach this from an analytical perspective–evaluating evidence, arguing, and attempting to persuade their wives to...

How to Fix a Sexless Marriage

A sexless marriage is often a result of other problems in the relationship.  Addressing those other problems first can contribute to a healthy sexual relationship and strengthen your marriage   Women too often underestimate the importance of an ongoing sexual relationship to the health of their marriage.  Women need to realize the importance of sex and...

Is My Wife REALLY Not in Love with Me Anymore?

One of the obstacles to reconciling is failing to believe your wife is not in love with you anymore.  You will have more success in reconciling with her if you accept this than if you don’t. Women can and do fall out of love.  Love is not some fixed quality like having an arm or a head.  It can come and go.  Which also means that it can come back again. ...