Why Your Husband Is Mean and Disrespectful
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Why Your Husband Is Mean and Disrespectful

There is no single cause or cure for a relationship with a mean and disrespectful man. The place to start improving your marriage is determining why he is this way. Is your husband mean and disrespectful? Do you know the real reason why he is behaving this way?  Some men have always been this way,…

Less Quality Time with More Conflict? Change that Now
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Less Quality Time with More Conflict? Change that Now

A common needy behavior is to complain and argue in order to get more attention and affection. Could this be what your spouse is doing with you? Complaining and arguing may be your spouse’s way to make sure that you still care. For couples who have become emotionally distant, arguing is often a substitute for…

How to Argue Less, Connect More with Your Spouse
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How to Argue Less, Connect More with Your Spouse

You will never argue your way to a better marriage, but you can end the arguing and create a better relationship with your spouse. Did your parents try to fix relationship problems by arguing? If so, you are also likely to argue with your spouse. We learn to do what we see others doing, even when those…

The Most Effective Way to Stop Your Husband’s Disrespect
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The Most Effective Way to Stop Your Husband’s Disrespect

Good actions are more effective than sharing your feelings when it comes to ending disrespectful behavior. Some time ago I was interviewed by the editor of an online women’s journal. The message she wanted me to give to her readers was: 1) that you should talk to your husband if he is being disrespectful, and…

How to Solve Financial and Other Problems without Fighting
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How to Solve Financial and Other Problems without Fighting

Fighting in marriage is an attempt to coerce or persuade a spouse to do things they don’t want to do. It always creates stress and emotional distancing, even when it works. Arguing or fighting as some people like to say is never healthy for relationships. It is normal only in the sense that it is…

How to Get Your Spouse to Stop Blaming You
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How to Get Your Spouse to Stop Blaming You

Blaming is one of several damaging behaviors that people unwittingly reward their spouse for doing. Just as giving candy to a tantruming child won’t result in fewer tantrums, your reactions to your spouse’s blaming may be getting you more and more blaming. It makes a difference whether your spouse blames you a lot or a…

The No Conflict, No Therapy Way to Cooperative Parenting
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The No Conflict, No Therapy Way to Cooperative Parenting

Here is what you can do to eliminate parenting conflict without going to marriage counseling Taking the direct approach with a disagreeable spouse is like going head to head with a mountain goat. A disagreeable spouse will not back down, will not be reasonable, and will not admit you are right–no matter how much evidence…

Understand and Reduce Your Husband’s Anger for a Better Marriage
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Understand and Reduce Your Husband’s Anger for a Better Marriage

Do you know which of the four motivators is making your husband be so angry? Figuring that out will help you deal with him effectively. When your husband is angry, it forces you to focus on his emotion and his words. At that time he will either be blaming you or criticizing you. His behaviors…

Why Couples Argue about Money and How to Stop
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Why Couples Argue about Money and How to Stop

Arguments always have two components–the actual practical issue, and the way people feel about the issue. A one step approach of presenting facts won’t get you to a better relationship. A two step approach will be much easier. People have different values concerning how money should be spent or saved. They also have different ideas…