First Steps When Your Wife Wants to Separate
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First Steps When Your Wife Wants to Separate

Your marriage is not over when your wife wants to separate. Handled correctly, this can be a good opportunity for your marriage to become better than ever. If you are like most of the men I work with and your wife wants to separate, that came as a complete surprise to you. Even if your relationship…

How Do I Get My Husband to Love Me?
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How Do I Get My Husband to Love Me?

You can get your husband to love you more by making a few important changes in yourself Some women find that their husbands have lost interest in them. Instead of love, they see a tired or impatient look in their husband’s eyes. And, these women feel less important than the TV, or computer, or even their husband’s…

Wife Want to Separate? Here’s How to Start Reconciling
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Wife Want to Separate? Here’s How to Start Reconciling

Your marriage is not over when your wife wants to separate. Handled correctly, this can be a good opportunity for your marriage to become better than ever. Were you shocked by your wife telling you she wanted to separate? Most of the men I work with felt that way even though their marriage had become very…

7 Separation Boundaries that Promote Reconciliation after Separation
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7 Separation Boundaries that Promote Reconciliation after Separation

Having good separation boundaries will prevent your spouse from having his (or her) cake and eating it, too. That, along with connecting with your spouse and being attractive, will promote reconciling. Although many people do reconcile after separation, many people don’t. What makes the difference between these two groups? It is the behavior of the partner who…

If Your Husband Wants Space, Here’s How to Respond
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If Your Husband Wants Space, Here’s How to Respond

What does it mean when your husband wants to separate and have space? How you respond to this message can make all the difference in saving your marriage. Let’s say your husband moved out or wants to. He told you that he needs time or space to figure out what he wants. What you need…

The Most Effective Way to Stop Your Husband’s Disrespect
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The Most Effective Way to Stop Your Husband’s Disrespect

Good actions are more effective than sharing your feelings when it comes to ending disrespectful behavior. Some time ago I was interviewed by the editor of an online women’s journal. The message she wanted me to give to her readers was: 1) that you should talk to your husband if he is being disrespectful, and…

What You Need to Know about Talking about Marriage Problems
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What You Need to Know about Talking about Marriage Problems

Most people think that talking about problems is the best way to resolve them. But is that really true? Do you remember the last time you talked with your spouse about a relationship problem? How did it go? If you are like all of the people I work with, it didn’t go well. One or…

Are You Confusing Love and Respect? Respect Comes First
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Are You Confusing Love and Respect? Respect Comes First

Love and respect are intimately connected–but respect comes first Respect and love are not things we think about much in our marriage until they aren’t there anymore. Neither of these things disappears in a single day, and the drain can be so slow that we are surprised when they’re gone. Then, you are surprised to…

Patience Is the Persistent Application of Love and Boundaries
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Patience Is the Persistent Application of Love and Boundaries

Relying on patience alone to create change is neither effective nor loving. Loving someone involves a set of skills that promotes closeness while effectively dealing with problems. Patience is an important aspect of love But, love is not one single thing. People who like to say that love is patient or that love is unconditional,…

How to Talk to Your Adult Children about Your Marriage Problems
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How to Talk to Your Adult Children about Your Marriage Problems

Sooner or later your adult children are going to know there is a problem. When you want to reconcile with your spouse, you must be careful not to alienate your spouse from the kids. Many people find out the hard way that confiding in their adult children about their marriage problems is not always the…