7 Separation Boundaries that Promote Reconciliation after Separation
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7 Separation Boundaries that Promote Reconciliation after Separation

Having good separation boundaries will prevent your spouse from having his (or her) cake and eating it, too. That, along with connecting with your spouse and being attractive, will promote reconciling. Many people do reconcile after separation.  Many people do not.  What makes the difference between these two groups?  It is the behavior of the…

What to Do When Your Husband Wants Space or to Separate
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What to Do When Your Husband Wants Space or to Separate

If your husband wants space or husband is moving out to get space, you can manage this is a good way. First, start by understanding what he is really doing. Your husband moved out or wants to. He told you that he needs time or space to figure out what he wants. What you need…

An Interview with Dr. Jack Ito about Disrespectful Men
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An Interview with Dr. Jack Ito about Disrespectful Men

I was recently interviewed by the editor of an online woman’s journal.  The message she wanted me to give to her readers is:  1) that you should talk to your husband/partner if he is being disrespectful, and 2) if talking doesn’t work, you should leave him.  Needless to say, as a pro-marriage, Christian coach, I…

Talking About Marriage Problems
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Talking About Marriage Problems

Does it really help to talk to your spouse about the problems in your marriage?  Although many people assume that’s the right thing to do, often it makes things worse.  Repeatedly having unproductive talks about marriage problems can cause both of you to stop talking about anything but the weather.  And when the talking stops,…

Are You Confusing Love and Respect? Respect Comes First
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Are You Confusing Love and Respect? Respect Comes First

Love and respect are intimately connected–but respect comes first Respect and love are not things we think of much in our marriage until they aren’t there anymore.  Neither of these things disappear in a single day, and the drain can be so slow that we are surprised when they’re gone.  You find out your spouse…

Should I Patiently Wait for My Spouse to Change?
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Should I Patiently Wait for My Spouse to Change?

Being patient is more likely to result in divorce, but that doesn’t mean you need do something needy or controlling either. Are you “patiently” drifting further and further away from your spouse?  Problems in your marriage can make you seriously consider whether you married your soul mate or whether you made a big mistake.  When…

How to Get Your Spouse to Change for the Sake of Your Marriage
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How to Get Your Spouse to Change for the Sake of Your Marriage

To get your spouse to change, work on effectively responding to what your spouse is or is not doing If you are like many dissatisfied spouses, you can identify some significant problems that your spouse has.  It may be that the only way for your relationship to improve is to somehow get your spouse to…

What Should I Tell My Adult Children about My Marriage Problems?
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What Should I Tell My Adult Children about My Marriage Problems?

Sooner or later your adult children are going to know there is a problem. When you want to reconcile with your spouse, you must be careful not to alienate your spouse from the kids Many people find out the hard way that confiding in their adult children about their marriage problems is not always the…

4 Things NOT to Do When You Have an Alcoholic Spouse
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4 Things NOT to Do When You Have an Alcoholic Spouse

If you have an alcoholic spouse, you may be making one of these four mistakes. Changing even that one thing can give your relationship a real boost.  Everyone wants to have a good marriage or relationship.  People who have an alcoholic spouse want to have a good relationship.  Even alcoholic spouses, want to have good…