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Most people think that talking about problems is the best way to resolve them. But is that really true? Do you remember the last time you talked with your spouse about a relationship problem? How did it go? If you are like all of the people I work with, it didn’t go well. One or…
Fighting in marriage is an attempt to coerce or persuade a spouse to do things they don’t want to do. It always creates stress and emotional distancing, even when it works. Arguing or fighting as some people like to say is never healthy for relationships. It is normal only in the sense that it is…
Managing money seems like a matter of logic. But, as with many issues, just presenting the facts is likely to create conflict. You can learn how to stop your spouse’s overspending using a win-win approach that takes into account desires as well as needs. Creating positive change in your relationship never requires conflict. Sometimes boundaries…
Arguments always have two components–the actual practical issue, and the way people feel about the issue. A one step approach of presenting facts won’t get you to a better relationship. A two step approach will be much easier. People have different values concerning how money should be spent or saved. They also have different ideas…
Financial problems in marriage have both a financial aspect and a relationship aspect. Learn to deal with both and you can talk about anything. The answer to financial problems is often simple, but talking to your spouse about it may be difficult. First, let’s consider the simple answer to financial problems–increase income and decrease expenses until…