How Neediness Can Push a Spouse Toward an Affair
Neediness in marriage contributes to many affairs. The things you are doing in your effort to improve your marriage may actually be pushing your spouse away. Updated October 13, 2026
Neediness in marriage contributes to many affairs. The things you are doing in your effort to improve your marriage may actually be pushing your spouse away. Updated October 13, 2026
Trying to end your spouse’s bad behavior in one step usually results in more conflict and only temporary change. There is a better way that not only ends the bad behavior–it strengthens your marriage.
Neediness can quietly sabotage your relationship—often without you even realizing it. The good news? You can replace those subtle, damaging habits with secure and loving behaviors that make your marriage stronger than ever.
He tells me I should trust him. I want to, but I can’t. What do I do now? Trust is something that helps our relationships grow by allowing to us to become more and more emotionally and practically committed. There should be little trust at the beginning so we don’t commit too soon.
Being too suspicious or not suspicious enough can both cause you to behave in ways that jeopardize your marriage. Being secure and being objective will help you to clearly know if you can trust your husband. In my work with women whose husbands are having affairs, about half of their husbands never were trustworthy. The other…
It is possible to get your husband to come back to you. Like most things, it will require doing the right steps in the right order. Lesson 1: Why people (including your husband) do what they do I think a lot of women stress themselves out trying to figure out why their husband is leaving….
Jealousy makes people feel mistrusted and controlled. It contributes to relationship dissatisfaction, broken relationships, cheating, affairs, and divorce. Jealousy is a combination of the feelings of fear of losing a loved one and anger at the love one’s attraction, attention, or affection toward someone else. People who feel jealous monitor their loved one’s behavior to…
Do you spend more time worrying about your relationship than you do enjoying it? If you do, you will be more upset when even little upsets happen. You will also tend to overreact to your spouse’s words and behaviors. You will be watchful and try to figure out the deeper meanings behind them.
Love and respect are intimately connected–but respect comes first Respect and love are not things we think about much in our marriage until they aren’t there anymore. Neither of these things disappears in a single day, and the drain can be so slow that we are surprised when they’re gone. Then, you are surprised to…