Are You Confusing Love and Respect? Respect Comes First
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Are You Confusing Love and Respect? Respect Comes First

Love and respect are intimately connected–but respect comes first Respect and love are not things we think about much in our marriage until they aren’t there anymore. Neither of these things disappears in a single day, and the drain can be so slow that we are surprised when they’re gone. Then, you are surprised to…

Patience Is the Persistent Application of Love and Boundaries
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Patience Is the Persistent Application of Love and Boundaries

Relying on patience alone to create change is neither effective nor loving. Loving someone involves a set of skills that promotes closeness while effectively dealing with problems. Patience is an important aspect of love But, love is not one single thing. People who like to say that love is patient or that love is unconditional,…

How to Confront Your Husband’s Affair and Reconcile
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How to Confront Your Husband’s Affair and Reconcile

How and when to confront your spouse’s affair is part of the solution. The other is knowing how to rebuild following the confrontation. Robin had been feeling for a long time like she was unimportant to her husband. He didn’t seem to be interested in talking with her anymore. He would if he needed to,…

4 Things NOT Do When You Have an Alcoholic Spouse (Avoid These Relationship Mistakes)
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4 Things NOT Do When You Have an Alcoholic Spouse (Avoid These Relationship Mistakes)

If you have an alcoholic spouse, you may be making one of these four mistakes. Changing even that one thing can give your relationship a real boost.  Everyone wants to have a good marriage or relationship. People who have an alcoholic spouse want to have a good relationship. Even alcoholic spouses, want to have good relationships. No…

End Your Spouse’s Addiction and Have a Better Marriage
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End Your Spouse’s Addiction and Have a Better Marriage

Badgering your spouse to end an addiction will do more harm than good. You need to combine love and good boundaries if you want to see things change. Trying to build a relationship with an addicted spouse is frustrating and prone to failure. Just when you think you are making progress, you will find your…

How to Make Sure Marriage Differences Don’t Become Irreconcilable
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How to Make Sure Marriage Differences Don’t Become Irreconcilable

Can you get cooperation and fix a marriage when you are very different from each other?  Absolutely! The main reason couples have difficulty solving their relationship problems is because they don’t work to find common ground. They want to fix the biggest differences so badly that they tackle those head on. The big differences reflect differences…

How to Love and Live with an Addicted Spouse
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How to Love and Live with an Addicted Spouse

You can learn how to set healthy boundaries with an addicted spouse. Healthy boundaries will not only help your spouse, but they will also make your life and relationship better. With good boundaries, you don’t need to feel like it’s either settling for a bad relationship or divorcing. You don’t have to give up on…

4 Keys to Effective Boundaries You Can Use to Build Your Marriage
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4 Keys to Effective Boundaries You Can Use to Build Your Marriage

Boundaries are the effective alternative to arguing or pleading with your spouse to change. Stop losing respect and get back to a better relationship.  Do your marriage problems get worse when you talk about them with your spouse? If so, you may have learned to keep your mouth shut rather than make your problems worse….

How to Stop Being Blamed for Everything by Your Spouse
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How to Stop Being Blamed for Everything by Your Spouse

Does your spouse think everything’s your fault? That if there are problems, then you are to blame? Here’s how to effectively respond to blame and make your marriage better at the same time Blame may play an important role for your spouse. Because of that, he or she will be reluctant to give it up, even…