4 Keys to Effective Boundaries You Can Use to Build Your Marriage
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4 Keys to Effective Boundaries You Can Use to Build Your Marriage

Boundaries are the effective alternative to arguing or pleading with your spouse to change. Stop losing respect and get back to a better relationship.  Do your marriage problems get worse when you talk about them with your spouse? If so, you may have learned to keep your mouth shut rather than make your problems worse….

How to Stop Being Blamed for Everything by Your Spouse
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How to Stop Being Blamed for Everything by Your Spouse

Does your spouse think everything’s your fault? That if there are problems, then you are to blame? Here’s how to effectively respond to blame and make your marriage better at the same time Blame may play an important role for your spouse. Because of that, he or she will be reluctant to give it up, even…

Are You Confusing Love and Respect? Respect Comes First
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Are You Confusing Love and Respect? Respect Comes First

Love and respect are intimately connected–but respect comes first Respect and love are not things we think of much in our marriage until they aren’t there anymore.  Neither of these things disappear in a single day, and the drain can be so slow that we are surprised when they’re gone.  You find out your spouse…

Should I Patiently Wait for My Spouse to Change?
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Should I Patiently Wait for My Spouse to Change?

Being patient is more likely to result in divorce, but that doesn’t mean you need do something needy or controlling either. Are you “patiently” drifting further and further away from your spouse?  Problems in your marriage can make you seriously consider whether you married your soul mate or whether you made a big mistake.  When…

How to Fix Your Marriage and Get Your Spouse to Cooperate
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How to Fix Your Marriage and Get Your Spouse to Cooperate

Can you get cooperation and fix a marriage when you are both so different?  Absolutely! Most married couples have difficulty solving their relationship problems because they don’t find common ground.  Because they have different goals, they end up trying to justify their position while blaming the other.  Rather than solving problems and fixing a marriage,…

How to Go from Confronting an Affair to Reconnecting and Reconciling
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How to Go from Confronting an Affair to Reconnecting and Reconciling

Even when your spouse is having an affair, love is still the answer to reconnection and to not giving in to your anger Robin had been feeling for a long time like she was unimportant to her husband.  He didn’t seem to be interested in talking with her anymore.  He would if he needed to,…

4 Things NOT to Do When You Have an Alcoholic Spouse
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4 Things NOT to Do When You Have an Alcoholic Spouse

If you have an alcoholic spouse, you may be making one of these four mistakes. Changing even that one thing can give your relationship a real boost.  Everyone wants to have a good marriage or relationship.  People who have an alcoholic spouse want to have a good relationship.  Even alcoholic spouses, want to have good…

How to Live with an Addicted Spouse: Questions & Answers
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How to Live with an Addicted Spouse: Questions & Answers

Setting boundaries with an alcoholic or addicted spouse can be confusing. Setting them correctly will help you to live with and help your addicted spouse. You don’t need to give up on your relationship. Nobody wants to be addicted to drugs or alcohol, including your spouse.  There is a gap, however, between wanting to get…

How to Love and Help an Addicted Spouse and Save Your Marriage
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How to Love and Help an Addicted Spouse and Save Your Marriage

If your spouse is addicted to drugs or alcohol, you will need to deal with that before your relationship can improve. Trying to build a relationship with an addicted spouse is like trying to build your relationship with someone who is having an affair. Just when you think you are making progress, you will find…