How to Rebuild while Separated: Marital Separation Do’s and Don’ts
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How to Rebuild while Separated: Marital Separation Do’s and Don’ts

Marital separation (living in different homes), can be a good opportunity for rebuilding your relationship. It can also result in ending your relationship if not done in a good way. When you are separated, you are likely to be overly focused on ending the separation. This is natural because you miss your spouse and just…

Why Being Separated while Living Together is a Poor Choice for Reconciling
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Why Being Separated while Living Together is a Poor Choice for Reconciling

Real separation is very different from being separated while living together. Behaving as if you are separated while living together does damage that makes reconciling much less likely The dynamics of being separated (living in different homes) creates greater opportunities for connection, respect building, and reconciliation. Considering yourself to be separated while living together creates…

When is My Marriage Over? And When is it Not?
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When is My Marriage Over? And When is it Not?

Many people give up too soon on their marriages, believing them to be over when they are not. There are only 2 situations that signal your marriage is over. Most of the people I help to reconcile have spouses who at first said, “It’s over.” What this really means is, RIGHT NOW she doesn’t want to…

What to Do When Your Wife Wants to Separate
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What to Do When Your Wife Wants to Separate

Your marriage is not over when your wife wants to separate.  Handled correctly, this can be a good opportunity for your marriage to become better than ever. If you are like most of the men I work with and your wife wants to separate, that came as a complete surprise to you. Even if your…

7 Separation Boundaries that Promote Reconciliation after Separation
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7 Separation Boundaries that Promote Reconciliation after Separation

Having good separation boundaries will prevent your spouse from having his (or her) cake and eating it, too. That, along with connecting with your spouse and being attractive, will promote reconciling. Many people do reconcile after separation.  Many people do not.  What makes the difference between these two groups?  It is the behavior of the…

How to Make Marriage Work when You are Both Very Different
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How to Make Marriage Work when You are Both Very Different

Can you get cooperation and fix a marriage when you are both so different?  Absolutely! Most married couples have difficulty solving their relationship problems because they don’t find common ground.  Because they have different goals, they end up trying to justify their position while blaming the other.  Rather than solving problems and fixing a marriage,…

Discover the Real Reason Your Spouse Wants a Divorce
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Discover the Real Reason Your Spouse Wants a Divorce

How can it be that your spouse wants a divorce after years of marriage and all you have had together? Understanding the fundamental reason is your key to reconciling. People are often shocked when their spouse wants a divorce.  Yet, when I ask them how long their relationship had been bad before that, they often…