How to Persuade Your Spouse Not to Separate for Practical Reasons
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How to Persuade Your Spouse Not to Separate for Practical Reasons

Do you want to persuade your spouse to stay together for practical reasons (kids, finances, home, business) while your spouse wants to separate because your relationship is not emotionally close? This kind of problem typically occurs when: 1) a relationship started out as romantic, 2) changed to a business partner relationship, and 3) one of…

Trial Separation vs. Unstructured Separation: Which is Better for Reconciling?
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Trial Separation vs. Unstructured Separation: Which is Better for Reconciling?

A trial separation is best used when both spouses want to build their relationship. Unstructured separations are much more helpful when only one spouse wants to reconcile. Let’s talk about why. Trial separation is a method commonly used by marriage counselors when husband and wife both want to reconcile, need to de-stress, and limit ongoing damage….

How To Rebuild Your Marriage While You Are Separated
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How To Rebuild Your Marriage While You Are Separated

Marital separation (living in different homes), can be a good opportunity for rebuilding your relationship. It can also result in ending your relationship if not done in a good way. When you are separated, it’s easy to be overly focused on ending the separation. This is natural because you miss your spouse and just want…

Physical Separation vs In Home Separation: Which is Better for Reconciling?
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Physical Separation vs In Home Separation: Which is Better for Reconciling?

While many people fear living apart will end their marriage, physical separation has benefits for reconciling that living together as-if separated doesn’t. When people behave as if they are separated while living together, they are actually still sharing the same space. The separation is actually an emotional separation. This is accomplished by avoidance and intentional…

How to Know if Your Marriage Is Over
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How to Know if Your Marriage Is Over

Many people give up too soon on their marriages, believing them to be over when they are not. There is only one situation that signals your marriage is over. Most of the people I help to reconcile have spouses who at first said, “It’s over.” When their spouse said that they were absolutely sincere. And yet,…

First Steps When Your Wife Wants to Separate
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First Steps When Your Wife Wants to Separate

Your marriage is not over when your wife wants to separate. Handled correctly, this can be a good opportunity for your marriage to become better than ever. If you are like most of the men I work with and your wife wants to separate, that came as a complete surprise to you. Even if your relationship…

Wife Want to Separate? Here’s How to Start Reconciling
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Wife Want to Separate? Here’s How to Start Reconciling

Your marriage is not over when your wife wants to separate. Handled correctly, this can be a good opportunity for your marriage to become better than ever. Were you shocked by your wife telling you she wanted to separate? Most of the men I work with felt that way even though their marriage had become very…

7 Separation Boundaries that Promote Reconciliation after Separation
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7 Separation Boundaries that Promote Reconciliation after Separation

Having good separation boundaries will prevent your spouse from having his (or her) cake and eating it, too. That, along with connecting with your spouse and being attractive, will promote reconciling. Although many people do reconcile after separation, many people don’t. What makes the difference between these two groups? It is the behavior of the partner who…

Your Spouse’s Real Reasons for Wanting a Divorce
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Your Spouse’s Real Reasons for Wanting a Divorce

Although most spouses say they want a divorce because of problems in the marriage, rarely is that the actual reason. Understanding the real reason your spouse wants a divorce will help you know how to work on reconciling. People are often shocked when their spouse wants a divorce. Yet, when I ask them how their relationship…

How to Make Sure Marriage Differences Don’t Become Irreconcilable
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How to Make Sure Marriage Differences Don’t Become Irreconcilable

Can you get cooperation and fix a marriage when you are very different from each other?  Absolutely! The main reason couples have difficulty solving their relationship problems is because they don’t work to find common ground. They want to fix the biggest differences so badly that they tackle those head on. The big differences reflect differences…