How to Persuade Your Spouse Not to Separate for Practical Reasons
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How to Persuade Your Spouse Not to Separate for Practical Reasons

Do you want to persuade your spouse to stay together for practical reasons (kids, finances, home, business) while your spouse wants to separate because your relationship is not emotionally close? This kind of problem is common when husbands and wives are from different cultures. It is also common when one spouse is very traditional, while…

Do You Know the Signs Your Marriage Is Over–And When it Is Not?
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Do You Know the Signs Your Marriage Is Over–And When it Is Not?

By far, the the bigger mistake people mistake is thinking that their marriage is over when it is not. This is a false conclusion which comes from not knowing what to try next For every person who works with me to save their marriage, there are many others who have given up in the very…

Is It too Late to Save Your Marriage?
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Is It too Late to Save Your Marriage?

There are only 2 indicators that it is too late to save your marriage. The vast majority of people give up on their marriages too soon. Lack of progress calls for different methods–it doesn’t mean it is too late to save your marriage I often receive emails from people asking if it is too late…

When is My Marriage Over? And When is it Not?
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When is My Marriage Over? And When is it Not?

Many people give up too soon on their marriages, believing them to be over when they are not. There are only 2 situations that signal your marriage is over. Most of the people I help to reconcile have spouses who at first said, “It’s over.” What this really means is, RIGHT NOW she doesn’t want to…

What to Do When Your Wife Wants to Separate
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What to Do When Your Wife Wants to Separate

Your marriage is not over when your wife wants to separate.  Handled correctly, this can be a good opportunity for your marriage to become better than ever. If you are like most of the men I work with and your wife wants to separate, that came as a complete surprise to you. Even if your…

Can I Trust My Husband? Making an Objective Decision
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Can I Trust My Husband? Making an Objective Decision

“Can I trust my husband?” is probably something you never thought you would have to think about. But, what if you are just being naive? In my work with women whose husbands are having affairs, about half of their husbands never were trustworthy.  The other half have been trustworthy throughout the marriage. Many women are…

How Can I Get My Husband Back?
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How Can I Get My Husband Back?

Get your husband back. Restore cooperation, communication, and connection to a damaged marriage.  If your husband is leaving you, it is because he believes he has much more to gain than to lose.  Another way to put it is that he is afraid of losing what he could have without you.  That may be another…

How to Deal with Your Own Jealousy
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How to Deal with Your Own Jealousy

Jealousy sends the message that you don’t trust your spouse. It also makes you appear more needy. The result is an increased risk of losing your partner A jealousy self test How many of the following statements can you answer “yes” to? I am concerned that I am losing my partner’s affection and that it…

7 Separation Boundaries that Promote Reconciliation after Separation
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7 Separation Boundaries that Promote Reconciliation after Separation

Having good separation boundaries will prevent your spouse from having his (or her) cake and eating it, too. That, along with connecting with your spouse and being attractive, will promote reconciling. Many people do reconcile after separation.  Many people do not.  What makes the difference between these two groups?  It is the behavior of the…

Why You Need to Make Your Relationship a Priority
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Why You Need to Make Your Relationship a Priority

Failing to make your relationship a priority will ultimately result in your spouse no longer making your relationship a priority. Whatever you prioritize in life, you can keep.  Are your priorities making your link to your spouse stronger or weaker?  What change do you need to make in your priorities to keep your relationship strong?